Don’t torture yourself.
The thoughts that you get caught up in that make you feel misery are the ones that torture you the most.
The worrisome, anxious, fearful thoughts that make you dread life and feel powerless are just habits you have picked up through your life experience.
I once coached a lady who said, “But if I don’t worry, then things won’t work out.”
I explained that it works quite the opposite.
Worrying is like praying for what you don’t want.
The challenge is that when you start down the rabbit hole of misery-induced thinking, you send a signal to more things that will make you feel that way.
So, all of your greatest worries come true, and you say, “See, I told you the worst was going to happen.”
And that’s why it does.
If you could, before those miserable thoughts create momentum, catch yourself and say, “I’m not going to think like that because it doesn’t make me feel good.”
Things would begin to change.
The trick is to know it takes a little time for the energetic to catch up with the physical.
But if you’re really determined and paying attention, you will feel the energy change subtly.
And then, as you allow yourself to feel and think a little better, you will see changes that help you to feel more and more satisfied.
Treat this like a game and you will really be winning.
It’s not so serious, and you don’t need to torture yourself any longer.
Just have more fun and choose thoughts that relieve you and help you to know that life can get better every moment you decide that it can.
